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Coming out to yourself

I know I am different

From the day boys are born, it is assumed/ we are told/ we learn (take your pick) that we are heterosexual, will have children with a girlfriend or wife, and will follow gender orientated work and career paths.

For the first 10 years or so of our lives before we start thinking things out for ourselves, most of us are actively encouraged to be heterosexual or straight whether it's the clothes we are given to wear, the toys we are given to play with, the TV we are allowed to watch, or the male role model our father represents.

Even though much has changed in recent decades, this is underpinned by the ideal of traditional family life, still the backbone of many societies, reinforced by heterosexual stereotyping on TV and in the media.

But, and its a big but, assuming and reinforcing a person's sexual orientation which has at least 1 in 10 chance of being something else is confusing and stressful, especially as we hit puberty when hormones rage and emotions surge.

Two stories for you ...

There are many coming out videos online today but these thoughful stories from Tom and Kima are both powerful and moving.


It gets better: Tom from Liverpool | UK | tomtom1854 | 4 May 2011 | 12m 53s


Coming out story | Kima Ali | US | 2 Feb 2017 | 15m 36s

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