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Pornography within society generally remains a charged issue, although it's embedded in gay culture. It's marketed to us as a plus, a safe way to get turned on and explore our sexual fantasies and, in some cases, watch and learn to improve technique. There are many forms of porn including magazines, old school videos, DVDs, art, written stories, and most recently Internet websites and live-cam streaming.

Over 1,000 people completed a porn survey for GMFA. Notably, 97.9% watch porn, 91.1% watch anal and 95.8% watch bareback porn though only 6.9% said watching bareback porn led to personally having unprotected sex. It's a fascinating read, and we urge you to go look-see.

Fancy a bit of porn? | GMFA

However, we should make allowances for the grim and predictable storylines, over-sized dicks and seamless action - a far cry from reality. There are growing concerns that porn causes harm. For example, the dopamine your brain produces when you watch it (that's the "I like this" pleasure bit) will steer you back to watch more so there is potential for addiction.

Go online and you will find a ton of pluses and minuses so MEN R US spunk monkeys have met over tea and biccies to pull together some statements to which you may agree or disagree.

  • Watching porn to cum is preferable to hooking-up for real.
  • Watching porn means you are more likely to demean and objectify gay men.
  • Watching porn creates unrealistic expectations of how we should perform sexually ourselves.
  • Watching porn is just a bit of fun, and I could easily never watch it again.
  • Watching porn that ticks our fantasy boxes can then make it difficult to be turned on by men in real life.
  • Watching porn creates problems with intimacy and confidence in our own lives.
  • Watching porn perpetuates an unhealthy industry that exploits and devalues men.
  • Watching porn is cheaper than dating.

Points to consider whether buying/ watching or making/ appearing in porn:

  • You can film and post porn in minutes but once it's out there you may never get it back
  • Be aware that some guys may have a webcam and be streaming live
  • Think carefully whether you want to be included in a porn vid, whether it’s for cash, through a hookup, or for self gratification. If you’re in doubt, don’t do it or discuss it with a sensible friend first
  • It may be appropriate to put away your porn library during family visits, particularly if they include inquisitive children. This can mean pictures, videos, magazines, photographs and books, some of which can be easy to forget. You may also wish to clear your Internet search history
  • If you have a camera connected to your computer left on it can be activated without you knowing
  • Taking porn through customs is still not advisable. If you’re caught, it’s usually confiscated
  • Be careful what you acquire – particularly off the internet. Some imagery, eg: extreme BDSM scenes and child pornography often result in heavy prison sentences
  • Magazines are still for men over 18 years old


The Science of Pornography Addiction (SFW) | AsapSCIENCE | 20 Feb 2013 | 3m 6s

MEN R US and porn

One of the most difficult components of building this website on a budget has been illustrating content. The majority of photographs are paid for via relatively inexpensive stock photos, but many used in MEN and SEX were sourced from Butch Dixon and UK Naked Men who have given us permission to use photos from various shoots. It's been immensely helpful as you're unlikely to get shots of rimming or cum from digital media libraries (we tried). Equally, there will be those who will raise an eyebrow as to why we have used this particular source material. Well, why not? Granted there's a little eye candy, but we've chosen carefully and cropped photographs to most accurately compliment the content, using men with more typical/ average builds where possible.

Why isn’t my sex life more like the porn I watch? | GMFA FS #139
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7 Things You Didn't Know About Porn! | Davey Wavey | 24 Feb 2013 | 4m 43s

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