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Edging

Edging is the technique for bringing yourself (and others) to the point of cumming (ejaculation or orgasm) … to the edge … then stopping … not cumming … and starting again.

It’s also known as ‘peaking’ or ‘surfing’, ‘orgasm training’ and ‘orgasm denial. Edging is about controlling your orgasm, and the moment at which you cum, or not.

But this should not be confused with a rock climbing technique or lawn garden maintenance. So when your gran says she was edging in the garden don’t just stand there, mouth open like a goldfish!

It’s more involved

Some argue edging is simply a matter of not cumming, but it is more involved. You are maintaining a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period, bringing yourself to the point of cumming then stopping, then starting over again. Edging appeals because it allows you to stay in a heightened state of sexual arousal and, with practice, orgasms can be more powerful and intense.

You may complete this cycle several times before you eventually cum, or not. However, as wanking is so goal orientated for that burst of cum, it can take patience and practice to develop techniques and discipline to ride the edge and not shoot your load.

Increasing your sexual repertoire

Increasingly, guys include this in their sexual repertoire, though edging is nothing new. Contrary to popular belief, sex is not always about the climax, and cumming and edging can enhance a more intimate, intense, erotic, sexual experience for you and a partner.

What to do

If you don’t have someone to help (or control) you, you can practice edging on your own by wanking. It also makes sense you’re not interrupted (unless that’s what you want), and you have sufficient time practice and play. 

Wank until you feel like you might cum then stop for a short period but not for so long that start checking your app messages! Do this a few times and see how it makes you feel … not just your cock and balls … but your whole body.

The more you practice, you might find the longer you can go on edging, and the more explosive the eventual cumming can be. You can also try the ‘squeeze’ method which involves getting close to the edge … then stopping … squeezing the tip of your dick for about 30 seconds. Then start again.

Getting to know your body and cumming too quickly

Getting to know and appreciate how your dick (and body) responds to sensations, pressure, and rhythm can be helpful not just for edging, but for sex generally. If you tend to cum too quickly edging can help you lengthen the time between getting horny and cumming. You can practice by yourself or practice with a partner which can also enhance intimacy.

Don’t be tedious

Partners should also be willing to compromise. One partner may want to edge for a long time, which can become tedious for the other partner. Knowing each other’s expectations can make edging more satisfying for both.

Tops and bottoms

For tops, edging a partner can increase their sensations of power and control though the reverse can be true; a top who wants to test the control they have over their orgasms might practice edging. For bottoms, edging can increase feelings of submissiveness, surrender and consensual objectification.

Edging and BDSM (S&M)

Some guys regard it a form of sexual ‘torture’ which is why it can be found under BDSM practices, but you don’t need to be into BDSM to enjoy it. Edging can add an element of psychological or physical control to the practice of delaying or outright denying themselves or their partners an orgasm. For tops, edging a partner can increase their sensations of power and control—but it also works in reverse. A top who wants to test the control they have over their own body and desire might practice edging. For bottoms, edging can increase feelings of submissiveness, consensual objectification, and surrender.

Orgasm control | Wikipedia
A guide to edging | Vice | Jul 25 2018


Edging | The Gay Guyde | 20 May 2017 | 3m
This clip on Edging is part of a longer film on Masturbation 101 | 10m 13s

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