Connection and consent
Great sex should be about connection, intimacy, affirmation, and fun, as much as it is about being safer. However, some of the choices we make during sex and chemsex can have serious consequences, and can cause lasting harm. Sexual consent is about having the ability and freedom to agree to sexual activity. This is something that must be clearly established between two people before any kind of sexual act or behaviour, and you can change your mind at any time.
Words we may not fully understand
Words like 'consent', 'sexual assault' and 'rape' may be new in that it has only been recently that they are being talked about more openly particularly in relation to gay men. Holding a mirror up to our sex lives can be difficult for many reasons; and for many gay men, it’s hard to believe that we may be a victim of sexual assault or rape.
Sex without consent
Sex without consent is a crime. Talking about this stuff is not easy, particularly when we’re high and horny. If something has happened to you, you may not even have found the words yet. Whether it’s a feeling … sense … or hazy memory: talk to a friend, go to a sexual health clinic, or phone a helpline.