Introduction

About this website

Exasperated by questionable and unrewarding Internet search results, we’re a group of gay men who wanted health, life, and well-being stuff in one place.

So, we got off our arses to build an independent free-access website that joins up the dots of our needs: a hub to further support and information.

MEN R US is an encyclopaedic life manual, and our take on what it is to be gay today. It’s not perfect, it’s sometimes messy, but it’s ours!

We also wanted content that isn’t dumbed-down, drained of humour, or edited to within an inch of its life. And we really didn’t want ads, pop-ups, and banners.

The funding has only gone so far which is why the content of MEN R US is currently London-centric. We hope this will change in the future.

Some of us are living with HIV and/ or HCV (Hepatitis C) so, above all, this is our narrative and our story.

The Rainy Day | Three Flying PIglets for MEN R US | 2017 | 45s

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Our thanks

Acknowledgements and thanks

Huge thanks to the volunteers who have contributed thousands of hours researching, writing, editing and proofing content.

Special thanks:

Camden LGBT Forum
CGL previously CRI
Creative Conceptions
Exchange Supplies
Global Drug Survey
Gay Men Fighting AIDS
NAM Aidsmap
PIP PAC
Release
Slate
Three Flying Piglets
Wellcome Trust
Wikipedia
Work In Process
Men’s Sexual Health which sadly closed in early 2014.

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Q&A

Q&A

Q: When did it start?
A: Developing the project proper started in 2011, writing in 2012, while funding was secured in 2014. MENRUS.CO.UK was built in 2015 and launched on 1st November.

Q: What did it cost?
A: £10,000 initially grant for a bespoke website built in WordPress, and a computer (2014) and a second £10,000 grant (2016) is allowing us to develop the website (2016/ 2017).

Q: How big are you?
MEN R US is made up of six chapters: YOU, MEN, BODY, SEX, STIs and DRUGS containing 110,000+ words (1/11/15). At an average reading speed (250-300 words/ minute) it will take you 5½-6½ hours to read MEN R US in one go – without clicking the links or watching any of the films.

Q: Why is the website so London focused?
A: The funding has only gone so far and it’s our home. More funding and we will go further though.

Q: Who funds you?
A: We receive donations which just meet £3,000/ year running costs. We are seeking larger grants from late 2016.

Q: Are you a charity?
A: No. We are a not for profit community group.

Q: Where are you based?
A: We don’t have a street office as such. However, based in central London we work from each others’ homes when we need to – we’re friendly that way.

Q: Who writes, runs and updates the site?
A: Volunteers and we think of ourselves as informed gay men, certainly not experts. If we need help we go get it.

Q: What happens if something is wrong or I’d like to see something added?
A: Let us know and see what we can do. MEN R US is not perfect, it’s part of our charm.

Q: How can I help?
A: Email us. We’re always on the look out for volunteers to help write, edit, update and proof.

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Photographs

Photographs

Illustrating this website has been challenging on a shoe string budget. The majority of photographs (including diagrams and illustrations) are paid for from 123RF royalty free stock photos.

Many of the photographs of naked men (eg: SEX and STIs) are sourced from Butch Dixon and UK Naked Men who kindly gave us permission to use photographs from film shoots.

Other sources are acknowledged accordingly. Please let us know if we have credited incorrectly. It will be the sin of omission rather than any attempt on the part of MEN R US to defraud or pass off.

No assumptions should be made about the sexuality, HIV status or views of individuals or organisations featured on MEN R US. 

Fancy one of your photos on this website?

  • You don’t have to be a pro: a shot taken with a smart phone, DSLR camera, or compact will be fine
  • Use our contact form to email your shot – telling us a bit about it, and where you think it should go on MEN R US
  • For example: can you take a better photo for kissing (in SEX) or same sex friendships (in YOU)?
  • Bear in mind: photos should be tasteful and sexy without being gratuitous smut
  • Please confirm in your email that the person(s) in the shot have agreed to be photographed
  • By emailing photos to us you permit MEN R US to use and edit in perpetuity
  • We are offering absolutely no payment but are happy to credit you – so please include your name
  • We won’t use all photos sent to us, so don’t be disappointed… but keep trying
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Who we are

Volunteers and steering group

MEN R US is written and edited by gay men, all volunteers, with additional content (used with permission) from a wide range of organisations and community groups in fields of health, health promotion, sexual health, HIV prevention, substance use, and the LGBT community. A steering group from the LGBT community coordinates the project, meeting regularly to monitor and develop the project further.

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Donations

Donations

While we have no premises or staff to pay, we have around £250/ month running costs, most of which goes on hosting, volunteer expenses, maintaining equipment and tea. 

So if you like what we do, and have a few pounds to spare, please donate. There is a donate button at the bottom right hand side.

Your payment receipt will read: GMHC.

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Contact

Contact

If a volunteer is online we will often reply within a few hours or try to reply in 5 days. This may seem a long time but we are reliant on our spunky volunteers who do not monitor the INBOX 24/7.

We are not interested in those of you offering to advertise, host third party content, or increase traffic.

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Write to us at: GMHC, PO Box 70190, London WC1A 9JL

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Disclaimer

Intention for the purpose

MEN R US is intended for the purposes of information, education, satire, and amusement, namely gay men’s health, health promotion, well-being, and the prevention of Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) and Hepatitis C (HCV) transmission. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead is purely coincidental, or not. Batteries not included. No other warranty expressed or implied. Do not use while operating a motor vehicle or heavy equipment. May be too intense for some viewers. For recreational use only. Please remain seated until the ride has come to a complete stop. Browsing constitutes acceptance of agreement our terms. Men may be slippery when wet. Not responsible for direct, indirect, incidental or consequential damages resulting from any defect, error or failure to perform. Parental discretion is advised. Although robust enough for general use, adventures into the esoteric periphery may reveal unexpected quirks. Not available in stores. May cause abdominal cramping and loose stools. Not designed or intended for use in online control of aircraft, air traffic, aircraft navigation or aircraft communications; or in the design, construction, operation or maintenance of any nuclear facility. May contain traces of various seeds and nuts.

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Privacy

Your privacy

We are committed to respecting and protecting the privacy of anyone using our site and the confidentiality of any information that you provide us with. In general you can visit our website without telling us who you are and without revealing any information about yourself.

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Cookies

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Some of our cookies are used to simply collect information about how visitors use our website and these types of cookies collect the information in an anonymous form.

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